Dear Kyniska,
Accept your mistakes and accept that losses might have been made. Most importantly believe that you don’t need to commit mistakes to know what makes you happy, and that you don’t need mistakes to define who you are. Believe that there will be a time where you will take heed before you commit anything, and you will be able to make the right choice.
Say it out loud till you can say it like you mean it and believe it:
I don’t need to make mistakes.
I would like to know what makes me happy.
I would like to choose happiness.
You don’t need to look objectively at yourself, that causes anxiety. Stop the observing and the judgments will soon stop. Then allow yourself to feel for things that actually make you feel good. Not what others tell you is good for you, or is right, or is best.
Take your time making decisions. Since you have being doing things against yourself, there is something in you that has lost trust on your own self. So recognize truth.
Say it out loud …
I would like to believe in truth.
I would like to trust myself.
I believe I can trust myself.
May relief come your way.
P.S You don’t have to say them with the I. For example, “Believe in trusting myself” “Can know what makes me happy” “Believe in not making mistakes”
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