Hi girlinwonderment,

I was just wondering about something. You knew him before, through friends, and now you have been dating for 3 months. This is pretty new to both of you, so maybe he is just trying to figure out where he stands with you, and possibly trying to not come off as clingy towards you. I could be wrong, but it sounds like he wants to be with you, but he just doesn’t want to be in your face. Although, telling someone that you love them after 3 months is a pretty open and bold move.

Every guy is going to approach things differently. I’m in my early 40’s too. When I first started dating as a young guy, I was always in “woo” mode. After 20 some years, and being divorced, I’m not as sure as how to approach things like that. It seems like some women get annoyed when you try to do too many things like that, and then other women just love it. I can’t say what your man is thinking. I just know what I feel about this and it could be that he’s not sure about what he should do.

If you feel it’s worth it to talk to him about this situation then you should. Maybe it’s what he needs to be more open and attentive to you in this relationship. If you don’t think the relationship is worth carrying on, then let him know this, and soon. I know from experience that it sucks to think you are in a relationship and the other person isn’t. I hope that this is some kind of help. Good luck