Hi Gertie, So sorry to find you so sad. This time of the year seems to magnify sad feelings for so many. I haven’t been in your situation although I would like to offer some positive advice to you. When you think of how you are reacting to a situation think of what your response is teaching your child. If you keep on believing lies when your head tells you not to, your child may grow up to do the same. If you decide that you have had enough, think about how you want to role model to your child the way you want to break up with the man. Tell her the simplified truth. You have waited for him long enough. You don’t think you trust or believe in what he says anymore. You want a man who will be able to be with you (and her) 100% and he isn’t. So you are going to stop seeing him. If he wants to commit to you both he knows where you are and he knows that the only way he can continue to see you are on your terms, which means leaving his wife. If you can be strong, and stick to your guns, you will role model this inner strength to your child. You will be showing her how to be strong for when she needs to be strong herself one day. Take care not to tell her all your troubles, and do not use her to listen to all your woes. Be careful what you say, keep it simple, and be the best role model you possibly can. Doing it for her may just give you the strength to look after yourself, and her too. Good Luck, let the tears (and the pain) out and stay focused on your future for her sake too.