Hi Jeff,

When someone we love is no longer in our life, it is quite natural to think back on what we can do to change the outcome but I agree with Doreen in that actions speaks lounder than words. For your wife to make a decision like this, she would have thought it through and it is unlikely that her opinion will be swayed by words alone. If heated argument is an issue, it is probably unwise to confront her in anyway since that will only re-affirm her decision in this regard.

The other thing to consider too is if you write a letter to her and she didn’t respond in a way that you expect her to you are only opening yourself up to more heart aches, not the mention the anxieties you will feel while waiting for a response. So instead of worring about her opinion, focus on yourself and if the changes are effective, people will notice without you saying anything. If she comes back in a few months time, great. If not, you would have made the foundations to move on in your life.

Hope it works out for you.