Thanks Maggie. Belief in the fact that it will can only lead emptiness and procrastinating self reliance. I believe that what Jeff has done as far as efforts to make things better as a couple has been shot down by his wife. Right now, it’s not about what actions will work to convince her otherwise, it’s about Jeff’s actions leading towards happiness on his own. Spending time thinking & trying to figure out how to convince her to become vulnerable again is the exact opposite of the approach that Jeff should take for his own & his children’s well being.

Hope that helps.