Hi, Shantigirl.
I am going through this as we speak. My boyfriend told me after the start to the new year that we cannot be together because his parents are searching for a wife for him. I was indescribably heartbroken. I have talked to my friends and my family. No one seems to understand; they can only tell me that things will be okay in time. That is actually painful to think about right now. How will things be okay with time if I only imagined that time to be spent with him? We planned to travel to Europe together this summer, but those dreams won’t happen. I know he deeply loves me still, but I feel so alone and lost. We are still in touch, and I feel like I am racing against time until his family decides his future. Do you think we will still be friends? There is nothing more that my restless soul wants right now than him. He has brought out the life in me again. I need to find out how to get that back. It will be two weeks since we began to let go and things haven’t been let go completely yet. Tomorrow I will send his birthday package as I promised, and after that, I think it will be best to distance myself from him as much as possible. I feel like no one understands this level of heartbreak. I have broken up with someone before, but never have I had to create a break with the most loving, trustworthy, and compassionate man on earth. How do I get over this?

Thanks,
Jemma