Hi Moongal,

I think it’s best if you contact her and say, “It’s not working”. By saying “It’s not working” you’re saying the relationship is not working. She’s acting in her nature. You’re acting in yours. Neither of you is wrong. But “It” ~ the friendship ~ is not working.

Or, you can give her boundaries, like, call once a month. But here’s the thing. You would have to reach out to her, too.

Tell her that you are safe. But that the constant calling activates your anxiety. “Doctor’s orders”.

I had a friend where it got to a point where I would cringe every time the phone rang. She would want to rehash what was wrong in our friendship to the point where there wasn’t one.

As we get older it’s not about the quantity of contacts it’s all about the quality of them.

Good Luck,

Inky