I really like Raventrue’s response. It’s important to feel safe and nourished. A relationship should comfort both people inside it (and not just one main person; esp. if it’s the one who has a tough time dealing with volatile emotion. That person has work to do on their own which his partner should not have to attone for.) It is a fact that some people have issues which need to be worked out alone before involving others into their lives who might end up being hurt by behaviors caused by unresolved issues. I wish you the best and I admire you for reaching out for help and advice…that’s definitely the way to go when you are unsure 🙂