Helen,

Unfortunately, your story is one that many young people can relate to today. We live in really frightening times and “Certainty” as our parents and grandparents knew it is sort of a thing of the past. This forces us to be innovative (hence the huge prevalence of start-ups, creative firms and small businesses) but it can still be very frightening to jump fully out of something that seems safe (your job) even if it is causing you great discomfort. I also work a job that I really dislike (a legal assistant in a law office). Although I don’t find it fulfilling or interesting and there are about 27,000 things I would rather do with my time, I am able to see this well-paying job as a means to an end. For example, I am currently working and, during my down time at work and free time outside of work, building a blog and working on writing the book I have always wanted to write. This allows me to make peace with my job as I know it is simply a stepping stone that is allowing me to write, create and reach people on the side. Eventually, my goal is to quit the day job and work full time in more fulfilling pursuits. Maybe you can work on your music more on the side or join a community group that fosters that passion, even if you can’t afford to leave your office job right this minute. In the meantime, save money, plan your escape and…most importantly….give yourself a timeline! If it is really negatively impacting your mental health…just get out. Nothing is worth that. Find a different job that is more in line with what you want to do or at least one that does not impose so much anxiety. Your sanity is worth protecting, my friend. I hope this helps. Please keep us posted.

Ashley