Hi Kate,

You’ve got alot of great support here! What you’ve just been through is so gut-wrenchingly painful that it is blinding. I know this. Many of us know this. The compounded feelings of betrayal, love, heartbreak and shock make for a deadly emotional cocktail that levels even the best among us and I truly admire you for being able to stand up underneath the weight.

The unfortunate thing about relationships like this one is that the half-life of that type of love is often forever. What you feel and felt for that man was a complex cocktail of things and I’m willing to be that there is a piece of you that will always feel the wound of this…although I promise you it will NOT always be this grotesquely painful. Eventually, this will dull to be a spot that hurts when you poke it, yes, but not a spot that informs your daily life. For right now, take care of yourself, do all of the things your logical brain tells you to do, treat yourself as if you are breakable and try like hell to care for your own soul. You got dealt a hard blow, lovely, but you’ll come out of it one day and you’ll be better, stronger, broader and kinder than you were before. XO and all of my best,

Ashley

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