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smit
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Dear Eevee,

Firstly, Thanks for sharing ur problem with us..

In my opinion, I think you should stick with C (as u said he truly loves and u and vice-versa). In my opinion and from my experience, its really very difficult to find a true love but u fortunately found it in C.
As far as B is concerned, I think that he is only ur Bf(best friend) and not Bf(boy friend).

I think that there is a very thin line between a best friend and a lover, and its often confusing who is the best friend and who is the lover. We share feelings with both of ’em and enjoy the company too.. So it does become an emotional mess, especially for people of our age grp.

So, if I would have been in ur shoes, I would have had stayed with C and remain close friends with B coz,
firstly, u do really love C, and,
he is suffering from depression. Its a phase when he needs u the most and if u leave him hanging now, it can further detoriate his condition (not necessarily a suicide).

I can understand ur dilemma coz a few years back I was in a similar position. I had a friend who already had a boyfriend, but her parents were opposed to her relationship. We became best friends. After sometime, I had this feeling that I truly love her but I didn’t interfere with her relationship.

Eventually, she eloped with her boyfriend and severed ties with me. After sometime and deep thinking, I realised that she was just a friend and not a lover, coz I moved on. If I would have been IN love with her, I could not have been able to move on. Now, even though we don’t talk, it doesn’t hurt much. But I do miss her as a best friend.

So I suggest u that u stick with B as ur best friend and love ur C as ur boyfriend.

My best wishes are with u..

Smit