@dinosaurcharlie:
I have been in this similar situation. Its been 5 months since my heart was broken into a million pieces. He said the same thing to me. He stopped loving me but he doesn’t know when. After 4 years together, I was heartbroken to say the least. I asked him why. I cried a painful cry to him where I was unable to breathe (I haven’t cried like that ever) but he didn’t have an answer. I begged him to talk about his feelings and when he feelings altered for me, and all he could say was “I don’t know.” Despite what he said, I wanted it to work. I promised I would try to make everything right. I would be the perfect partner but he made it clear that he didn’t love anymore. For months I have been trying to figure out what happened between us. He was my soul-mate, my everything. He was what I thought about when I woke up and thought about when I went to sleep. However, in those 5 painful months, I have come to realize that the relationship wouldn’t have lasted. The relationship would have been toxic for the both of us. Breaking up was for the best. I don’t want to be insecure, I don’t want to have to change to a point that I lose myself just because I am afraid he will leave me again. I know I have to focus on me now and my future. I have never felt this sense of relief since the breakup and I am so grateful for this site. Don’t get me wrong, I still have to work on myself. The pain is still there, but I am learning to let go. So I advise you to do the same. Put yourself first. He is clearly putting himself first. Do what is best for you and not him. I hope it helps.