Hi DW,

Yes, us men can be confusing especially when we are not sure whether to persue a woman. The trouble is, you can never be sure what the reason might be. It could be that he is speculating (which is my guess), that he is afraid of intimacy due to past experience, that he has other things going on, that he wasn’t hugged enough as a child…the list goes on. If it is any comfort, women can be the same and so a rule I go by these days is that if the other person needs to be convinced into entering a relationship, it’s a thanks but no thanks. Here is an article that I found helpful on this subject:

http://markmanson.net/fuck-yes