Why do people have to forgive someone who did terrible things to the ones they were and are supposedly closest to?
She carried on an affair for at least a year. Brought this loser into our home, and ate suppers at our table, with my kids while I was at work. This under the guise of him being ” a friend of hers”. She worked with lowlife at one time. She would “accidently” run into this guy all over with the kids, and made them part of her sleazy affair.

She has always been a shady person. I just didn’t notice it because I thought I was in love. It wasn’t the first time she cheated either. Besides that, I watched her lie to her family for years. It was like breathing to her. When the marriage ended, I watched as my kids took a back seat to whatever scumbag she was dating at the time. She bragged to a sister-in-law of hers about having a one night stand with a younger guy while my boys were in earshot. I didn’t want to know this, but when your recently turned teen son uncomfortably tells you this, you have to hear him out. It bothered him. Why would I forgive a degenerate like her?
Why doesn’t she deserve that? She put not only my life in turmoil but my sons too.

Honestly, my boys have never had to worry if I was going to be there for them. I’m trying to do the best I can in life, but I feel beaten down lately, and it feels like things won’t get better. It’s a frustrating place to be.