Dear 12butterflies,

I am sorry to hear that its been difficult lately – going through a break up is bad enough and having your family move away must make it harder. I miss my family too and i have been living away from them for many years now. When i reached a low in my life, somehow friends didnt really do the trick – sure a few were kind enough to be there and listen but there is a different kind of warmth and love with family. Its as inexplicable as understanding the intensity of a relationship vs close friendships. There is a place family and love have that friends cant seem to take. I kinda get it. Just sitting next to my dad watching the news is oddly comforting – his very presence made me feel comforted.

I think you really need to go over for a while to seem them, call them more often – i used to call them really less when i began feeling bad and pretending nothing was wrong. I was scared of worrying them with my problems but here’s the thing – i worried them more by not calling. In a way, as we get older, our parents need us so bad too. So in case you arent communicating much with them, please do so – skype with them more often, call them and if they arent the talkative kind, atleast check on them regularly.

Consider this from a larger perspective as well – life goes on, right? You’re still going despite how you feel and you can no matter what happens. If you really really need to move, then do it. Your good friends will be there in your life despite the move but you will have to look for a new job. Change is inevitable in life. Everyone keeps moving to different cities in this age but isnt being healthy (mentally and physically) important too?

Hope you find strength to do what you feel is best for you.

Sending you hugs,
Moon