Thank you Inky, I grew up in a family filled with people who loved you conditionally. As far as I know, unconditional love is also based on how you react to someone, if they do something you like and you treat them nice because of it and if they do something you don’t like and you are mean to them because of it, your love is conditional. Like punishing your children yet the bible says punishment is based on fear not love and the true definition for punishment is retribution (revenge) A child’s bad behavior should be corrected but the child should not feel the need to hate their parents or feel worthless for not pleasing them especially in terms of school. I see people in romantic relationships get rejected and treated unkindly because they were not pleasing their partner.
I can understand if the person was in a toxic and abusive relationship that they would want to break free from it.