Thank you for your reply Locutis, the truth is if love is not unconditional it is not love at all but secret or not so secret selfishness. Conditional love is based on fear, control, manipulation, dishonesty and the belief that this person must be perfect. I question if parents love their children unconditionally because if the child makes a mistake, their parent judges them and maybe hurts them to teach them a lesson, if they make an enormous mistake than the parent can’t believe that this is their child.
I feel neutral about criminals but at the end of the day, they are still human, flawed and damaged human beings. It’s important to let go of resentment. My grandmother treats me like garbage everyday with her rudeness, expectations,demands, and she’s only nice if I do as she says, that there is conditional care, she even cares more about my worth as a working person more than just me, this leaves me frustrated but I still forgive her, I also noticed if you love someone but hate another than your love is conditional upon the person you claim to care about, but hate for the other person implies that if the person you care about does exactly what the person you hate does, than poof the love evaporates, one person even admitted that they would stop loving their children if they became murderers, since almost everyone hates murderers why not they hate their own children or family members should they cross that line?