Hi Ian,

One of the most beautiful and crippling effect of love is that it’s something we give voluntarily and cannot expect anything in return. That’s why when it IS returned, it’s the most wonderful feeling in the world. When it’s not, throwing more love behind it often doesn’t work, especially when it’s in the early stages. For example, in your case you were both at a 5 to start off with but the she went to a 3 while you’ve gone to an 8. You feel hurt because you feel that she is not returning your feelings but she is frustrated because you are feeling too much. Having experienced this on multiple occasions, it’s a tough one to navigate.

My suggestion re distancing yourself away from her is keep yourself busy by creating events that you look forward to in your calendar. Also look at this as a growth experience in that it’s a step that helps you meet the woman of your dreams. DO NOT loiter around her life hoping for another shot through the back door.