Hi jul17,

There are a few things you can try.

One is Radical Acceptance. Expect her to ask 101 questions. In fact, if you are free enough to have a beer with your mom, you can make it a drinking game. For every question, drink. Or, for every question, have a bite of food. Then you can joke about it with your friends. 🙂

Another tactic is to ask her a question for every question she asks you. You can be subtle about this. Like, “OH!! I forgot to ask you what do you think of (blank)?” or “What would you do?” or “Well, I don’t know, but what do you think of option A and option B?”

The other is the 15 minute time limit. Anyone can do anything for 15 minutes. After 15 minutes, if you say over the phone or in person, “I’ve got to run”, or “I have to make a phone call, sorry!” or excuse yourself to the bathroom, she will have still had her “fix”.

Lastly, space out your phone calls and visitations. If you live at home, be out of the house more. i.e. Go to the library to get your school work done. Appear to go to bed early. Or excuse yourself because you have tons of work to do.

Good Luck!

Inky

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