On the more technical side of things, the mother gets custody of the kids in 80% of the cases in family law court, especially if you gave been the primary carer since their birth. If you are unsure you can always consult a family lawyer and most of them will provide the first consultation for free (just ring and check first). With the way your partner is behaving, it sounds like it might be going down this road so it’s better to be prepared for the worst.

On the emotional side of things, my heart goes out to you. The thing is, how long can you remain in a relationship due to guilt? With the way he is behaving, you will eventually reach a point where his presence alone will repulse you. Is there somewhere you and your kids can stay on a temporary basis? If so, it’s probably time to consider an escape plan because all it takes now is a drunken night out for him before things hit the fan.