Hi ElleTinker700,

I am a bad mom for saying this, but… once you have kids, doing stuff like birthday parties is automatic and no big deal. There’s also the kids’ plays, sports games, recitals, and graduations. Frankly, your brother (being a guy) won’t care and will totally understand that work schedules trump birthday parties, plays, games, recitals and even graduations. And your sister in law will probably be relieved that there’s one less person to take care of. That’s how I feel, anyway, when my own sister catches wind about a recital and invites The World. LOL. I end up taking care of several grandparents and the token lost or late relative and almost miss my own kid perform!!

Also, you seem to be putting a lot of self importance on yourself. That if you’re not there everyone will be emotionally devastated. Conversely, they think your job is cute and no big deal and really don’t get it.

It’ll All Be OK,

Inky

• This reply was modified 9 years, 9 months ago by Inky.