When you agreed to work out your differences and get back together, what was it he agreed to, exactly? I take it these issues you list (and they’re pretty serious) were the same issues that drove you apart, so what kind of indication did he give that things would be different? And how is he living up to his side of the bargain in “working things out”?

Imagine things won’t change, at least not dastically. Is this, what you are expriencing now, the kind of marriage you want?