Hi Becky,

I am sorry that you had to go through this experience.
I agree with you, that it sounds like this is a verbal and emotionally abusive relationship.

Abusive relationships are a lot about control. It would be consistent for an emotional abuser that has been walked out on to “change” back into showering with attention and concern. It is about control, and you took that away when you walked out expecting the relationship to be over.

Please consider:
Why did things begin to go downhill after you moved in? He had what he wanted, no reason to woo?
Why did he not “change” before you broke up with him?
What advice would you give if you were giving advice to your daughter the same age as you now?

Take a look at this site:

Things Abusers Say and Do to Gain Power Over You