Dear Leila

I know how difficult this must be for you. You said being with this person is not a realistic solution for you. That is ok.
What can you do from this point? You will have to move on with your life. This is not bad if you really prepare for it mentally.
You forget that moving on will also be an incredible experience for you as well. Well, it is not easy. I remember my first time hearing about my ex girlfriend. My heart was racing…! But the feeling passed. This will happen to you eventually. This too shall pass.

You said you are not good at helping yourself through difficult times. How can you change that? What does a woman that cares about herself do? Takes care of herself emotionally and physically. If you need space you should make that clear despite any circumstance. Prioritize.<< Who needs help? Leila and this man or this woman etc. Who will help Leila if i don't?>> Well… You ought to take care of yourself if these are your needs. If it is really imposibble to stop communication then at least schedule the texting between you or limit them to absolutely necessary in order to have some control over it. And plan a way out of the communication with him. At least for the period of time that you consider neccesary time in order for you to heal your heart.

Moving on will be incredible. You will gain confidence by overcoming difficulties. You will feel happy when you realise that you can, and will be, indepedent emotionally and unbound from the past. I believe it is hard for you because you really cared for this person and possible he cared for you too. Right? It is normal to pass through these emotions and you should embrace them (its part of the healing proccess).I assure you that they will pass.

You can meet new people. You can enjoy life. No one should force you to live in the past.

Take care
George

• This reply was modified 9 years, 9 months ago by George.