I am sorry you feel this way. Let me see if I can cheer you.

1. You are still fairly young and that is a great thing. I am 20 years older than you. You have a huge potential amount of time to create a better life. Do not worry about what your friends have. Statistically, half of them will end up divorced. The remainder may or may not be happy in the long run. We cannot know. Focus on you, you have definitely got time.

2. You are on the right track trying to involve yourself in meaningful activity. Learning, creating, volunteering, helping, working for causes, travelling, all these and more are stuff you could try to focus your brain on something fulfilling. You are the expert on this. The more you are getting “into” something of this kind the more sexy you are.

3. I refuse to believe that in a world of 7 billion souls there are not at least 7 million (one in every 1,000) who might be interested in dating you. The alternative is just – well – not likely. The problem is you may not know where they are. If anything, there are probably more than you can ever meet or date.

4. When you are depressed, and this sounds like part of the problem, it takes time to turn the mind around. It is similar to an object in motion (or at rest) in Newton’s physics. But with time and effort, it begins changing. Believe that your unhappiness is temporary.

5. Under the worst case scenario you – and this is not really bad – you can probably get a therapist who can help pull you out of this state.

Do any of these ideas help?

Sincerely,
Bill