Dear gramps,
Imagine if she had a sudden change in feelings, what would you want her to do? I agree with Will and John, you must talk to her. Whether or not she takes it well or understands, you want to be the kind of person that speaks their mind and speaks their own truth no matter what. Be patient and as eloquent as possible, try and make it about you. “I am feeling really fearful of intimacy, I’m dealing with some difficult emotions and wondering how my childhood is involved. Can you help me? Let’s work through this together.”

Good luck. Be kind to yourself! Thank you for posting.