Hi ericah89,

It sounds like you are unevenly yoked. I would respect his decision. You don’t have to understand it (as he himself may not understand it), but do respect it. Moving in together maybe pushed him over the edge. That this is Real. That he is a Grown Up and things are now Real. Why else would he have gotten drunk? What is at the root of why he let himself do that and get behind the wheel?

I am sorry he is so conflicted, but that is not your problem to fix. Maybe when he’s in his thirties you two will be equals, but I wouldn’t wait for that.

Good Luck!

Inky