Dear Heidi,

I dunno much about the Buddhist stuff – I am not really that spiritual in any way but i can give you some…ground advice. I have had a bit of experience on both planes and i will state it as follows – He will get involved with her temporarily, sporadically because of that bond they share. It wont mean much to them because its just a bond that has no real name to them – not a sex thing, not an intellectual thing – they are just two souls who match but cant stay with eachother for too long.

Over time though, there are some basic differences which both of you cant ignore – if he already feels you arent intellectually to his level, spiritually you arent that big a match either – then what would you run it on once the attraction and admiration or the initial honeymoon phase is over? I dunno about buddhism but i am talking from common sense plane – Are you really sure this is the guy for you? Is this really the kind of man you want to get married to? This is going to be difficult but i think you gotta really think this through – talk to a close friend, some family member.

Hope you get to an answer.

-Moon