Maybe a little off topic but reading some articles I found this interesting and very true statement:
“When you give your power to outer sources you attract aggressors”.
Aggressor could not always be a violent or destructive person, it could be someone who wants to have any form of control over other people, they may even think that they are doing this for other person’s good. The need to control is the main distinction of neurotic personalities. And victim would be a dependent person, someone who has not learned to rely on their own inner power, who allows to be defined by outer judgement, either good or bad. Of course if someone is used to being defined by outer good affirmations it is less painful and less probable to wake up to the fact that they need to learn to define themselves. Think of Siddhartha who was a prince living an abundant and loving life. He left all this because he sensed the need to wake up his inner strength in order to become Buddha 🙂
Just continuing the discussion 🙂