Hi Jes,

I suppose we are both very lucky that in both our cases our boyfriends are fully devoted to us and don’t let their sisters come between us. To hear that she rolls her eyes and pulls funny faces is upsetting, but I guess I have learned in the past while and from helpful advice from yourself and others, that this is all an exercise in being mindful, appreciating what we have and living a positive life no matter what the circumstance.

My sister in law sent my boyfriend a text out of the blue at the weekend, acting like nothing was wrong. This caused friction as I allowed myself to get annoyed that she had the cheek to expect him to act normal towards her (like he would have done when she bullied him before we were together.) He asked to meet her to talk things through, this brief meeting didnt have a totally positive outcome but she admitted she didnt like that I was taking him away from her. I appreciate that he had the courage to stand up to his lifelong bully, and have been trying my best (again!!) to not let her bitterness affect my mood.

Its extremely difficult to know that she will always be lingering in the background. I hope that the hen-do goes well and that the effort you made to be positive and also the bigger person, pays off. I know nobody would expect that girl to do a total 360 but I guess we can only control how we react to people’s actions, and not their actions themselves. xx