Hey!

It seems like you need to show yourself some self-love first and foremost! It doesn’t matter how much others love us, if we don’t love and appreciate ourselves, we’ll never be happy or feel the love that they give us. You can find a variety of content on our site to help you with this – but we’re not here to advertise. In short though, you must remember that you cannot not love or appreciate anything, unless you love and appreciate yourself.

It’s very easy to say that you want to be positive and try and force yourself to be positive, but it’s pretty illogical when you don’t actually feel it. The reason we struggle to see things positively is because of our mindset – how we perceive things. To change this, you must seek to shift perspective; positive people see the cup as half full, rather than half empty. This can be achieved by various daily practices such as simply showing gratitude, being around positive people, meditation, reading, etc.

Your past seems to have really taken a toll on you and it’s understandable. The reason why we think in the way we do is because of our underlying beliefs. They are not at a conscious level, but rather at the subconscious level. Beliefs and feelings manifest as our reality, if they are negative, you are likely to see more negative, if they are positive, then you’re likely to see more positive. This is very important to remember. You always have the power over your future, by choice. Although right now you may feel that you can’t choose how you feel, you can always choose to make an effort to focus on everything good in your life, and also make changes to remove anything you deem as toxic, and take the time out to take on daily practices that will start shifting your mindset to a more positive one.

You need to give yourself more credit for what you’ve accomplished so far! Start counting your blessings, your achievements and the people in your life that really matter. This is probably a great place to start.

There’s plenty of material on this site, our site and all around Google to help you find your way and feel more positive too. You deserve to be happy 🙂