Hi thanks so much for replying. Yes we live together and no he’s not my daughters father. I have said to him the same thing back a good few times but only when I feel really bad. And never did say it til yrs after putting up with it from him. I can remember a couple times he was fairly worried but not really more recently. It was my doing on nearly splitting 2 wks ago as couldn’t cope with it all. But there was certain things then I was holding on still and needed to let go in order for me to move on with him. Tho this is the last chance for either of us whether he means it or not cos I know I certainly can’t cope with much more hurt. I told him once I felt like suicide. He barely said a word. Says alot doesn’t it lol.

I think that list you gave me is great. Yes I think he is too much like the first list. Thing is he tells me he’s never put up with it from anyone else before. And tbh from his 2 main past relationships I don’t doubt it as they sound like real bitches lol!!! People with not much feeling from what they did and said but thats just his side of story.
I think I might just post the list only to him and say I found it on a website and see what he says. Thing is he may say ok, but it doesn’t really sink in. I gave him a website regarding anxieties once as he doesn’t really understand that, took it in at time of reading it but that was it.

People tell me he does love me, but then I get people tell me that I also need to think of me and my daughter. Tho’ I hadn’t asked about letting go after a row to friends/family. Lol I hear stories of women leaving men in dog houses for days and not talking!!! I said to him would you rather me like that and not speak at all. Said he didn’t know.

Will let you know how it goes when I show him list after I copied and pasted it. Cos I know he would go mad if he read all this. He can’t stand me talking to ppl about us, tho has accepted me talking to friends about us at times. Cos at end of day thats what friends are for.

Thanks again for your advice and help.