Dear Leanne:

It sounds to me, from my personal experience similar to yours, I think, that your child part, your inner child feels betrayed or abandoned or distrustful (or all) by your parent or parents, and you naturally project it into your boyfriend (who may be decent or not, i do not know). Is your inner child hurting beccause of her emotional abandonment? If so, she needs healing which is a deeper, longer process than simply changing negative thoughts into positive thoughts. If you believe deeply within your mind, your brain, that you are unloveable or that you cannot trust another to love you consistently, then changing thoughts is not going to work. Changig deep beliefs, core beliefs, takes looking into their origin with your mind and heart, perhaps within the context of good psychotherapy and slowly healing that hurting child. What do you think?
Take Care:
anita