Coffee,

In my opinion, both. Learn to work with stress skillfully, such as meditation and yoga. Learn to minimize the stress you’re producing, such as less projection of concrete meaning onto the experiences you’re having. This will help free up the space for the next waypoint along coffee’s path.

One secret is that the commute and long hours don’t inherently produce stress. Stress arises as you grab onto the experiences as yours. “Not mine” said the Buddha. Such as, consider spending time on the commute home setting down the day. “There is no need to think more about the stress I experienced today at work”. Ripples of thoughts, “gotta gotta gotta do do do”. Nope, “not mine”. Commute home inside, too. Then, when you do get home, you’ll be home already, instead of looking, trying, seeking.

Do you have kids and a family? What keeps you glued there?

With warmth,
Matt