Hi korrasamus,
Wow, people make their lives so complicated! If you guys want to be together one day ~ be together now! You don’t have to get married. Just enjoy each other’s company. He doesn’t have to “struggle” or “grieve”. You don’t have to be “strong” or “confident”. I mean, when would he or you be ready then? Next year? Five years? Ten years? Throw out your “shoulds” and be together NOW!
Caveat: Sometimes when people say, “I’m not ready for a relationship” they really mean “I don’t want a relationship ~ with YOU!” Make sure that’s not what was going on. If so then throw my above advice out the window.
Blessings,
Inky
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