Dear Saorise:
Your original account of how you made a joke about the mall being unsafe and your sister in law claiming angrily that you offended her and her family and did it intentionally and proceeded with attacking you… I am very familiar with this kind of behavior. My own mother often took something innocent I said (or did not say… but should have said, according to her), did (or did not do but should have done..)… even an expression on my face and claimed that I was hurting her and that I intended to hurt her. Trying to defend myself against her UNTRUE accusations did nothing. She only increased her attack of me. She felt justified in attacking me, claiming I was making her hit me, that she was only REACTING to my alleged attack on her. It was a horrible way of “growing in” as I call it and had a hugely detrimental effect on five decades of my life. It is only in the last few years, beginning with my first effective experience at psychotheraly that I started to heal. It was a horrible experience to be attacked over anything at all, attacks i was not able to prevent or to stop. These people, these bullies- I finally cut contact with my mother- oh, did i mention, cutting all contact with her was necessary for my healing which is still in progress. Some people are poison. Their MO is to ATTACK any which way. How do you “get along” with an attacker who NEEDS to hurt you? You get away. I hope your sister in law doesn’t have children or that she doesn’t attack them, take an exception with them. If you have comments on my story, Saoirse, or any of the commentators here, please do comment.
Take Care:
anita