Hi Laure,

I’m going to offer you try something a bit different. We have a daughter about your age, and, wait for it… She doesn’t WANT a relationship with anyone (now)! This is because she’s majoring in the sciences and is on a crew team. These eat up literally all of her time, she knows it’s not fair to the guy, and she is one of those with a Time Table for her Life. Like, she knows she’ll probably live to be 80 – 100 and that love will come anyway. She’ll receive it when she’s less busy, thank you.

Now, an interesting thing happens. She is the girl who gets asked out first!! NOT because she’s pretty (I think she’s gorgeous, but I am her mother!!) or because she’s socially with it, or smart, or a jock.. she is, but not any more than you are, I bet. It is because she’s all interested in and focused on other things! This is called The Cat Dish Affect. Other people think she’s got something going on! I’ve seen it again and again with other people!

It’s also known as Non-Active Interest/Non-Disinterest. (Something like that). Meaning, you see it, you appreciate it, you think “It would be nice to have this” but you simply smile and don’t go after it! If it comes to you, you say, “Oh how nice!” and love the hell out of it. But never cling to it. Like you’re in a Butterfly House.

So focus on your studies, job and/or team and see what happens!

Inky

P.S. I was more like you and know what it feels like! … Also, I just thought of this ~ in the media, the sought after girl is always doing her own thing and doesn’t notice the hero until like Season 3. Know what I mean? 😉

• This reply was modified 9 years, 6 months ago by Inky.