Dear rodrigo:
Good morning to you. Thank you for answering my question. You wrote in your last post addressed to me that you feel confused. You want to be independent on one hand and you want to connect on the other; you want to give your heart to another on one hand and you want to protect it and keep it to yourself on the other hand. Instead of it being one OR the other, hopefully, over time, it will be BOTH. Hopefully, over time, there will be a balance that will work for you and your mind will be clear.

Regarding mindfulness- you can google it, wikipedia has info on it. Psych central website does (although I can’t get through into psych central- but it has good articles by psychotherpists there!!!) Mindfulness is a BIG thing in current psychotherapy. There are books on it- you can google for books, read excerpts, maybe a book store- see what FITS your learning style, what kind of writing reaches you. One element of mindfulness, just one part of it is called “radical acceptance” by some. It means ACCEPTING your thoughts and feelings and internal experiences otherwise AS THEY ARE wihout rushing to like or dislike them. This is tough- a nonjudgmental attitude toward your feelings. This way you get rid of the extra suffering on top of your original feelings. Normally people ESCALATE their distress with thinking that bring more negative feelings. It is the not thinking unproductively ON TOP of the pain you already have.

It is about meditating- focusing on senses, here and now instead of ruminating about past and future … there is plenty of material- google and find what speaks to you! If you do, let me know how it is working for you. I hope it does.

Take care:
anita