Brittany,

I had this too to a lesser degree. Beginning of Year One: “How wonderful our son has a girlfriend!” End of Year Two: “*mutter mutter* … that damn jeep!… *mutter mutter*” (Hey! I loved my jeep! LOL)

YES, they might think you are invading into their family time! I’m sorry, but that’s the first thing I picked up. If you are recent grads, he should eventually move.

YES, they wanted him to have the college experience. New people, new adventures and not tied SO much to friends of old. Still seeing the high-school GF is, well, amazing, a rarity, yet “old”, I guess. (Like, I wanted my sister to have several BFs before she got married. She married her first one, and, well.. it ended badly.)

YES, they thought it was cute and wonderful for their son to have his first girlfriend in high school. Believe it or not, we parents are relieved when members of the opposite sex thinks our child is attractive!

What You Do:

1. Don’t move in together. It will destroy whatever magic is left. Just … trust me on this one!

2. Make you arriving at his family’s house An Event, not a regular thing. This way they will miss you and appreciate you when you do make an exclusive appearance. For the rest of the summer, disappear for a while. See them at the Fourth of July. Then maybe once more this summer. Every 45 days. Every month and a half seems to be the magic number for keeping in touch, yet them not being sick of you.

3. Surprise them. Call the house. When the mom says, “Oh, let me get him” or “Try him on his cell phone” say, “Actually, I called to see if YOU wanted to go to the spa/Renaissance festival/get our nails done/go out to lunch”. AND/OR ask the mom for some advice. Real advice, they can tell if you’re pandering to them. Ask the dad for car/financial advice.

4. When you do come over bring over food. Preferably made by YOU or at least a gift box thing-y.

Yes, you may see the BF a little less, but get creative. Meet elsewhere aside from the parents’ house.

Good Luck,

Inky

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