Hi Nicole,

I’m no shrink, but I honestly don’t think you have “complex post traumatic stress disorder”. Or any label! I simply think you are recovering from a bad break up and getting out from under a particularly nasty little man.

And I’m not saying you have a bad therapist or even that you should change therapists. But a good one GETS you. Does she “get” what you’re going through at all?? Yes, deal with the underlying stuff, absolutely. But you primarily need to feel HEARD. No, he is not a “regular person”. He is an abuser who would love to be your stalker. She should be congratulating you for handling this as well as you are, and thanking your lucky stars he’s out of your life.. Now, about your childhood.

And here’s a secret ~ It’s OK to think and even BELIEVE that he’s miserable deep down. Hey! If it gets you through the day, right? In fact, believe that he’s kicking himself every day! It might be true, and if it’s not, he would never admit it! 😉 Change the script in your head. Just don’t contact him again or receive contact from him. Ever.