Hi Tiny Butterfly,

Here’s my logical, outsider reasoning:

1. If his words are true (meaning, if he really thinks/feels that way) then you should get rid of him.

2. If he was just saying those words/statements out of anger, and they are meaningless, the danger is that he will think he can just say these things going forward. You begging him to take you back essentially gives him that permission as you “amitted” that you were “wrong” by the begging. (Hope that makes sense!)

3. You have given him all the power in the relationship. HE blocks you. HE hangs up on you. No. This is what you do: You have to give him a little scare, or a little hurt. This time YOU go away. No arguing, just say, “I can’t take this anymore, I’m going away to get my head on straight, and I will tell you if I want to continue this relationship when I come back.”

4. While you’re gone he will get a little scared. He will think back to his cruel words, whether he wants to or not.

5. When you come back he may very well dump you, or you may very well dump him. But if you do agree to stick it out, it will be a VERY long time before he even thinks of pulling a stunt like that again. And in that time, the dynamic will change.

6. P.S. Your family struggles didn’t cause the problems. They just served to illuminate your weaknesses in full relief.

Good Luck!

Inky

• This reply was modified 9 years, 6 months ago by Inky.