The question isn’t “do you know how to change it”, the question is, “are you committed to changing it”?

Think about it. If you aren’t committed to doing something, you will probably never get around to doing it, especially as it might be a long process. But if you’re committed to change, then it doesn’t matter how it will happen, you will discover that as you go. As long as you spend time finding and ‘trying on’ new perspectives, realizing that the beliefs and ideas you’ve developed around these issues may not be serving you effectively and being committed to change no matter how long it takes, then you can make shifts.

Check out mindfulness, CBT, coaching, philosophy, psychology, discover and implement more useful perspectives, etc etc…

At the moment you are definitely looking for somebody to fulfill a role in your life…somebody who loves you, because you think that will make you happy. Check out this video by Noah Elkrief: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=f0Br05QsSMw

Remember that a thought can only affect you if you take it seriously.

You’ve identified your desire for change quite specifically so now it’s onto you… “No problem can be solved from the same level of consciousness that created it” – Albert Einstein