justwow,

My darling, dear girl! My dad did the exact same thing to US. And I don’t know what hurt more ~ the fact that he put other people before his family, or the fact they (the OW and her family) were all Losers. And they were, because sometimes I would wonder the opposite: What if they were All That, how would we feel? My mother was an elegant lady, and she didn’t have any patience for him. She promptly left.

And even when he remarried (at least he dumped the old Mistress!), his new wife wasn’t much better. She made sure her Loser brood (trust me on this) took away all his time, energy and resources. Only with constant Prayer has our dad finally come around.

This is what men do sometimes: They assuage their guilt by making a Big Show about how they are Family Men. Then they wait until the kids are grown to move on. They have a Crisis. This is his Crisis. Sometimes they get over it. The weaker men don’t.

So, who was he cheating on before you were born? How did this woman appear? If there is a vast age difference between them, her daughter must be at least in her twenties if not thirties. HOW DOES THE DAUGHTER FEEL ABOUT HAVING A MAN AROUND DATING HER MOM WHEN HE COULD DATE HER? Listen, my DH is 15 years older than ME! Are you sure the two women aren’t just taking him for a little financial ride?

Your dad is angry all the time because he KNOWS he is wrong, he knows he is taken advantage of and he can’t justify it even to himself.

What you do: Pray. Prayer works. Get this situation on all the prayer groups in town, any religion or denomination will do. You’ll be surprised. Don’t entertain the other family. To you they don’t exist. Let your mother and father handle this. If anything, beg your mom to let you calmly get through Graduation. I will pray this situation if that’s OK with you. I know all the good people on these forums will also keep you in their hearts.

Blessings,

Ink