L&li,

Do you think she woke up in the morning thinking “how can I tear down that person today?”

Consider a healing mantra: “I choose to set down, give up, and forgive whatever causes, conditions, and behaviors that happened between us. May she be free of any further suffering, and may I be free of any further suffering.”

Quit trying to justify, explain, diagnose or judge her behaviors. That’s not helping you become free. Its just residual anger and entanglement. Toss it off, unneeded. Focus on the fertile fields, not the infertile fields. 🙂

With warmth,
Matt