Dear amethystt:
You wrote about your friend who is no longer your friend: “everything felt right and natural when I was with her.” Did you look back and within yourself and examined WHAT was different with her? What about the relationship with her made it different from your relationships with other friends? What was it about HER behavior and what was it about YOUR behavior with her that made for a better, deeper, stronger connection?

That may help you in figuring out what in others you need and what in you that you need to externalize, express with a friends for a better connection.
anita