Dear Sweet:
Your fear of separation from your husband is probably rooted in your childhood, in some ATTACHMENT TRAUMA, or attachment wounding that you experienced as a child. That is probably what generates the fear that attaches itself to your husband.

My feel of it is that what you are afraid of already happened.

The separation, rejection, betrayal of attachment that you are afraid of already happened and the healing is to SEE it and grieve it, a process that will calm that fear and one day you will no longer project that fear to your husband.

You wrote that fear is an illusion… I disagree. I wish it was an illusion. The emotion of fear is very real and is in our animal genes. Oh, it is real.

You are welcome. Will follow your blog, if you post more I will read and will be glad to respond again.
anita