Hello Anita, I did not attack his sexual abilities, and I’m pretty sure I didn’t insult him, although I was at some points very upset so that’s possible. I did my best to apologize for any hurtful words as did he. I should explain what our fight was better. It started with him needing to admit this attraction issue to me. It was very hard for him, I feel he genuinely wasn’t trying to hurt me. He said some wonderful things before he admitted it to me, that he wants to grow old with me, that he can’t imagine not having me in his life. When he broke the news I struggled to understand it and began asking questions as to the nature of what he found to be unattractive about me. He didn’t know how to explain it. I was confused and hurt, some of the things he said seemed contradictory, such as finding me attractive in the bedroom yet he doesn’t really find me attractive? And yes when I got to a breaking point with him he turned around and said simply talking about it made it better.

I brought my trust issue and insecurity up with him. I tried to convey my feelings while thinking a lot about what Matt suggested. I tried to convey my feelings in a genuine non-accusing manner. He then admitted to me that he now thinks he was wrong, talking about it didn’t make him feel better, he still does not find me not very attractive but deeply loves me. He didn’t want me to leave and doesn’t think we’ll ever be just friends. I do not understand what he feels and he doesn’t seem to know and/or understand how to articulate his feelings. It was very painful for both of us and in the end I decided to walk away from this relationship. He really is a wonderful person, my best friend and a caring soul, but I don’t feel good about myself with him. I am pretty heartbroken as I’m sure he is too. I hope he can better explain to me his feelings and we can resolve this in the near future. I wish I knew what he felt better. Thank you both for trying to help me. Not sure what more I can do.