Hi Catrina,

Sounds like you are going through a really tough time. I agree with Anita and Inky, you are going to need to start learning to enjoy your own company and be comfortable with yourself. But we all need a network of loving people around us too. I think people love meeting new friends at any age. I’m nearly 34 and I know I love making new friends.

Going to the gym and meditating are great, but they are both quite solitary activities. Why not try some hobbies that get you mixing with people, like a group sport, a group art class or partnered dance classes like salsa or something? Also, is there a website for your area where people organize social get togethers? There are some for where I live and it is a great way to make new friends. I know it is hard when you are shy, but keep putting yourself out there and having confidence that you have a great personality and would make a good friend. Take a genuine interest in others too, that will help dissolve any feelings of self-consciousness and people will find it easier to befriend you.

Best of luck x