Dear jdkm:
What do you mean by being harder on yourself. Whether you should be harder on yourself depends on what you mean by it, what forms of thinking this being hard on yourself means…? Sure, you should stop ineffective and especially harmful behaviors. You should stop harmful behaviors ASAP, for example behaviors leading to pregnancies &/ or STDs. This is more serious than a small boo-boo, bigger consequences, not to mention the emotional harm to you. So, how do you stop it- think of what ways you can stop these behaviors short term and long term, stop the bleeding first, so to speak and then aim for long term solutions and healing…
anita