Charles,

Without more specific information about the nature of the deprication you’re experiencing, I’ll have to stay really archetypal. Consider first that pain isn’t a punishment, its there to make us alert. Next, consider how the thorns on a rosebush aren’t there to punish us, they’re there to bring pain when we don’t interact skillfully with it. Deprication usually stems from a misunderstanding of one of these two points. Either we feel pain, and become agitated with ourselves for feeling pain, or we are pricked by a thorn and feel that the rose is rejecting us somehow. With these false beliefs in place, we become confused and fault ourselves or others for our ignorant actions instead of accepting the lesson and learning.

With warmth,
Matt